Sex Experts Agree that there is a difference
Many will throw kink & fetish into the same sentence or scenario but is there really a difference? We Try to explain ...
In General a "fetish" us a sexual fixation on a specific object, act or thing that is completely necessary in a person's life to be able to obtain the sexual gratification they are seeing. It can be anything from a simple foot fetish to needing to be flogged or degraded to actually get them off properly.
When that particular related to a specific body part (boobs, ass etc) that is referred to as a partialism which when one part of the whole body is isolated and is sexually charged or objectified. For example, let's say you have a particular thing for a very slender waist which you like to see in a slender tightly bound corset, that would be partialization.
Often someone who has a fetish can't get aroused at all if they fetish "isn't in play" for example they may really need to be dominant (or submissive) or in fact need "props" such as handcuffs and feel empowered before that real arousal comes to light.
Kink on the other hand ...
is more of a term that can cover so many aspects for the adult alternative lifestyles and their sexual interests, preferences or fantasies which pretty much go anything outside of your Sunday morning missionary sex which is seen as "the norm" for society.
It can be a little like the 50 shades where you include a blindfold and a few spanks or it can be as heavy as full on as any role play BDSM scenario you can think of which may include humiliation, torture, caging or more.
The important thing to remember is that it is all CONSENSUAL based! Meaning both (or all) parties agree to it.

Does one lead to the other
Yes and no .. it is said that All fetishes are kinks but not all kinks are fetishes. For example what might be a simple bedroom turn on for you (him spanking you while you have sex) for him might be an actual need where as if he isn't performing that act he wont get turned on at all. Remember fetish is more of a phycological need where a kink is more of just a desire for something.
Most fetishes are born from early adolescence (these can be good and bad experiences) where as kinks are usually gained more during your adult sexual experiences of wanting something more and desiring to experiment a little more outside of the norm.
However we can't say it enough, the BDSM, Kink & Fetish World's can get blurry, there can be people who are too pushy or demanding for what you want or need. Experimenting is one thing, "taking one for the team" is another. Do not do or agree to do things that you have not consented to. Everything in the BDSM community is about consent and if someone is not following those rules then you are being abused and you need to report it.
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